When we’re together, we have a great time. He’s such a gentleman: he holds doors open, he picks me up and takes me home, etc. He also enjoys going out with me (he told me so). He tells me things like, “You’re really special” or “I feel lucky to have you.” But the thing is, he hasn’t once called me, and it’s rare that I get a text message. We’ve only been on a couple dates, but what’s the deal? I don’t really believe that he’s not interested, but it would still be nice to hear from him.
Ok so most people on here that have answer are girls, so lts give you a guys point of view. Let me tell you whats going on. And there’s a few things you can do and a few reasons he isnt calling you.
This guy who you say is such a gentleman has a softside to him. He could have possibly not had a father growing up, or he didnt hang out with the very popular kids at school. I say this for two reasons. Most kids who didnt have a father in thier household are raised by thier mothers. The mothers teach thier kids how to treat a woman. If he had a father, but wasnt a popular kid in school, he could have not had much interaction with girls, meaning he had time to observe. He says these things because he doesnt want to lose you and you’re probably one of the few girlfriends he’s had.
Based on the topic above it’s very likely he’s a shy guy. There’s a chance he’s afraid of talking to you because doesn’t know what to say. Since you’ve only been on a few dates you might have alot to talk about, but he doesnt know where to start, or he doesn’t think anything is interesting enough to converse with you about.
If this guy comes off as a hotshot then he may have another girlfriend. If this is the case, you better do some digging before you make any decisions.
Thirdly, the guy could just be reaaaallly busy. If this guy has alot going on then this might be a valid reason for not calling you.
Here are some suggestions.
1. Call him–>if you want to know if he is interested, call him. See how he answers, if he answers. You can determine what is going on by the tone of his voice, and how he greets you.
2. Bring it up on your next date–> if he gets all defensive about it then you could threaten to break up with him. If he knows and apologizes for it, then wait and see if anything changes.
3. Quit texting or calling him–> this is only a good idea if you know it’d make him jealous. This could work, or it could backfire. If you quit talking to him, he’ll think you lost interest, and he’ll lose interest as well. Or he could become worried about why you aren’t txting or calling him, and he’ll eventually call or txt u.
Dont force a guy to call you. And I’m saying this from experience. The day I asked my ex-girlfriend out she said, “you have to promise you’ll call me atleast once a day”. I personally hate talking on the phone and I told her that i’m not promising anything. I told her that a call a day is too ridiculous, and if she was afraid of me cheating then she had nothing to worry about. I promised her i wouldnt cheat. I called her occasionally, atleast maybe 1 or 2 times a week and I hated it. I’m better at talking via text message anyways. Texting allowed me to think before I said something.
Just give the guy time. find out more about him before you jump to any conclusinos or decisions.
I totally think he’s interested!! Maybe he’s just not a phone person, because he sounds like he really likes you! You should ask him about it just say “Hey I’d really like to hear from you just so we can talk and stuff will you call me?” and if he says he doesn’t have time to be talking on the phone or he thinks it’s better to talk face to face then respect that 🙂 but you shouldnt be worried he obviously likes you a lot 🙂
I think we have all been there. Look at it this way…it was only A date so move on and stop stessing about it. It could be worse in that you started dating, relating, even loving THEN he stopped calling. You don’t need his nonsense, honey it’s not worth your precious time. Move on..ok?
I’ve been in a relationship for almost 5 months and i dont think i have called my girl more than twice in last 5 months….its all about how you feel when you se each other. Some people are just not “phone” type.
I’ve been on dates that I never called the girl again. Does that count?
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He isn’t interested if he isn’t calling you! That’s like one of the top 3 rules in dating, he has to call you! If he NEVER calls then he probably isn’t invested in the relationship like you are. You should dump him.
Tell him you’d like to hear from him… Just hint it. He may just be one of those people that doesn’t communicate so much using technology. I had the same problem… Just say it casually… good luck
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