Is this a word?
And if so, how would you use it?
It means exactly what it says: something that is tearing your soul apart can be said to be soul-rending.
A soul-rending song… a soul-rending sigh… a soul-rending pain… soul-rending tale… soul-rending scream… etc..
The wrong way to use it would be for something trite.
I agree with your observations & don’t feel attacked in the slightest. I can count on one hand how many people I have actually cared about, the rest were really just disposable. It’s not that I mean to be that way, it’s just the emotions are not there. I never lead people on & make out like I do care, when I don’t. People always know where they stand with me. Or at least that’s my intention. I can be very empathetic with certain people or causes that I care about, but for the rest of the time I think I come across like a sociopath (but I’m not).
I was on Yahoo Answers for something unrelated, then this question was trending on the sidebar…
It means something that destroys you emotionally.